Facts for Fathers
You are about to go through one of life's greatest joys - the birth of your child. This is a time of change for both you and your partner. Here are some ideas to help you.
- Your partner's pregnancy
- The pregnancy will have more meaning for both of you if you stay involved during the entire pregnancy.
- Your partner should get good prenatal care
- She should see a health care provider on a regular basis.
- Visits to her health care provider can help make sure the pregnancy is going as it should.
- Stay informed about her pregnancy. She will love to tell you about it.
- Help her eat right and stay in shape
- She will need to follow a balanced food plan.
- This may mean changing some of your own eating habits.
- Some exercise is good for both mother and baby.
- Encourage her to exercise.
- Try walking with her when you can.
- Use this time to relax and talk about things together.
- It's important that your partner stay away from alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs while she is pregnant.
Help show your support by also cutting back or quitting smoking and drinking during this time.
- Your changing role
- Later in the pregnancy, you will need to help your partner more.
- Help her with housework, cooking and cleaning.
- Make sure she gets a chance each day to put her feet up and relax.
- Decide now who will do what after the baby comes.
- Don't forget you are both in this together.
- Plan to share both the work and fun.
- Your Relationship
- There will be changes between you and your partner.
- For instance, you both may have mood swings. You may feel sad, worried or nervous for no reason.
- Try to listen and help each other.
- Take the time to talk things over.
- Sex During Pregnancy
- In a normal pregnancy, it is safe to have intercourse through the end of the eighth month.
- During the ninth month, and for about six weeks after the baby comes, find other ways to be close besides intercourse.
- Your health care provider can give you advice in this area.
- Sources of Help
- If you have question during the pregnancy or after your baby arrives call CareLine at 1-800-868-0404 for information and resources.
- Talk with family and friends
- They are a great source for information and advice.
- Don't be afraid to ask questions.
- Remember, being a parent is something you learn.
- Read up on things you need to know
- There are many books on pregnancy and being a good parent.
- Check with your library or bookstore.
- Take Childbirth Classes
- You and your partner can learn together what will happen during pregnancy.
- Many hospitals offer free courses.
- Some private teachers give classes in their homes for a small charge.
- These classes can help answer any question you might have.
- They can also help you feel more confident about the pregnancy and becoming a parent.
- Keep a good attitude
- Few things will teach you as much about yourself as becoming a father.
- By being patient and keeping a good sense of humor, you are well on your way to being a good father.